As a dad blogger in the Philippines, one of the most eye-opening experiences I’ve had in fatherhood wasn’t just the sleepless nights or changing diapers—it was watching my wife battle emotions that I couldn't fully understand. This emotional rollercoaster had a name, one that’s often whispered about but rarely addressed in Filipino households: Postpartum Depression (PPD).
And let me say this clearly: yes, postpartum depression is very real.
Breaking the Myth in Filipino Culture
Growing up in a traditional Filipino setting, many of us were raised to believe that motherhood is purely a joyful experience. When a baby arrives, the focus shifts to the new life, the “bundle of joy.” But what about the mother?
In many Filipino families, if a mom seems sad or distant after giving birth, she’s told to "tiisin mo na lang" or "dasal lang 'yan." It’s heartbreaking, because this kind of thinking downplays a very real, very serious condition that affects not just the mother—but the entire family.
What I Witnessed as a Husband and Father
After the birth of our first child, I saw my wife go from being glowing and excited to withdrawn and overwhelmed. She cried for no reason, doubted herself constantly, and felt alone—even when we were all around her. At first, I didn’t know what was happening. I thought maybe she was just tired. But the sadness lingered.
That’s when I realized we needed to talk—and more importantly, listen.
I started reading more about postpartum depression. According to the Department of Health, 1 in 10 mothers in the Philippines may experience it—but very few get diagnosed or treated, due to lack of awareness, access to care, and, sadly, stigma.
How Dads Can Help
As a dad, your role doesn’t end after labor. In fact, it begins more deeply during the postpartum period. Here are some ways we can support our partners:
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Be present. Not just physically, but emotionally. Ask her how she’s doing—and really mean it.
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Help out without being asked. Whether it’s with the baby, the house, or meals, take the initiative.
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Encourage her to rest. Moms are often pressured to bounce back quickly. Remind her that recovery takes time.
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Don’t dismiss the signs. If she’s showing signs of deep sadness, irritability, detachment, or even guilt—talk to a doctor or a counselor.
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Educate yourself. Understanding what postpartum depression is can make a huge difference in how you respond.
Let’s Talk About It, mga Tatay
We need more open discussions about maternal mental health in the Philippines. As dads, we have a role to play in breaking the cycle of silence. Our wives and partners deserve more than just flowers and “salamat” after giving birth—they deserve emotional safety and support.
If you’re a new dad reading this, or even a lolo or kuya who wants to help a mom in the family—know this: validating her struggles, no matter how uncomfortable or unfamiliar it is to you, can be a game-changer.
Final Thoughts from This Dad Blogger
Being a father has taught me that parenting isn’t just about protecting our kids—it’s about protecting the one who brought them into this world, too. Postpartum depression is real, and it deserves real compassion, real attention, and real conversations.
Let’s start by being present, being kind, and being informed. Because when we support moms, we build stronger families.
Papa Jomsi
Dad Blogger in the Philippines | Writing about modern parenting, mental health, and surviving family life one diaper at a time.
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